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Crying is one of the traditional and common ways for the child to express them. Crying is the biggest trigger point for many parents too. Whenever the child cries, we as a parent get stressed out, and we look for options to stop the crying. Most parents divert the child by providing them some eatables or take them out of the scene to stop the crying. It is fine until the child is vocal. Once they start to talk on their own, it is better to avoid diversion of any kind. Are you interested to know, why crying is acceptable and how can we support the crying child? Please scroll through.
Support a crying child for emotional development
Some parents have a slightly different opinion as the child cries only to get the elder’s attention, and we can ignore it. But, they have some hidden reason behind their tears. So, never ignore a child’s cry.
If any of the basic needs don’t meet child express the frustation through their tears. Whenever the child cries, instead of shutting them off with various diversion or threatening, please start to analyze the reason behind the crying. It may be due to hunger, sleeplessness, tiredness, some unresolved physical pain, emotional breakdown due to various reasons. So, it is always not recommended to ask the child to stop crying abruptly, especially if the crying happens due to an emotional breakdown.
The child may act a little harsh, like throwing things, spitting, throwing unwanted words on us when they are having the meltdown. As an adult, parents get triggered and start to show our anger on them for their behavior. Either the parent may hurt the child by any means( verbal or non-verbal), or provide time-outs, or start to teach them good habits to change the behavior. But, none of these actions provide any good at that moment. The child can’t hear anything and keep in mind when they are in meltdown. Instead, we can be with them and acknowledge the child’s feeling for better emotional growth in them.
Never stop the crying child abruptly
- Crying is the first mode of communication for kids. If we ask them to stop crying, we are asking them to suppress their emotions and they get confused as their emotional needs are not met with a sudden pause on their cry.
- If we divert the child from crying, they may stop crying for that moment, but they fail to understand their emotions, the reason behind their cry and won’t get an answer for their emotional breakdown. So, it is hard for the child to handle themselves if they have to face the same situation.
- Children get the terrible impression as “Crying is wrong,” my parents don’t like to see me crying, so I am not supposed to cry at all for any reason. This affects their mental growth, and they try to control their emotions throughout their life.
- Avoid using the unwanted phrases “you are not a baby to cry,” “Strong kids won’t cry.” “BOYS, don’t cry,” “Don’t cry like a GIRL.” Everyone has emotions, and everyone tries to express the same in some way, and crying is one of them.
- Never make fun of a crying child. It has a long-lasting lousy effect on them.
- Avoid saying “Use your words” often when the child is crying. Put us in their situation and think about whether we use our words while crying. Never !!!. Let them talk once they calm down.
Acknowledge a crying child for emotional development
- Go to their eye-level. Hug the child and acknowledge their feeling. Any gentle physical touch calms down their emotions, and they feel satisfied as their emotions are getting respect. They eventually stop crying soon.
- If you held up in any work, inform them, “Mom/Dad is a little busy will be with you very soon.”
- Most of the time, children need acknowledgments than the solution. Please don’t jump into fixing the problem right away, as that is not needed all the time. Instead, be present at the moment with them.
- This is a long process, and we need to do it for our whole life. None of the characters changes overnight. We as a parent need to understand and change ourselves for the well-being of our children.
- After all, “Parenting starts within ourselves”
Crying is perfectly. Anyone can cry to express their emotions irrespective of gender and age. Crying gives us a satisfaction and everyone feel relaxed after crying.
Well!!!! We are humans, and we get stressed out if we need to hear the child crying for a longer time. It’s ok !!!! We can handle it with utmost care and in a gentle way. Hang in there, we can do it for our child emotional development.