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As a parent, we all want to raise a valuable human being who can survive in this world with more confidence and face the society with clarity. Children can learn as many beautiful things at their early age, and they can keep up the values in them throughout their life. More than teaching great morals to the kids, we as parents need to follow whatever we want our children to do in their life. It’s more of observation and learning than teaching to kids. They look at us, observe us and follow us. So, it is our duty as parents to follow moral values in life, especially in front of our children. So, how can we teach them to kids . Scroll to have a look.
Ways to learn life skill
Children learn things very quickly if their learning attempt is interesting to them. There is no specific method that suits all the children. We can choose any path which our children fits in.
We can follow any method as per the child’s interest. In my case, it’s all about observation, mindful talking and books. As like many kids, my daughter observes us a lot and replicates whenever needed. So, we try to follow more moral values as much as we can. And the second one is book reading. My daughter follows as much as possible from her books. So, that’s a great tool for learning.
Let’s have a look into few important life lessons a child can learn in their early age say preschooler phase. In no particular order.
Important life lessons for children
Helping others and getting help from others in a genuine manner is an important life lesson for any individual. Kids at early ages, say one year or so, voluntarily helps us. They love to pick up things from the floor, follow us to keep objects in place, etc. But as they grow up, they tend to slow down the habit. But eventually, with routine positive talks, we can get back the behavior.
Along with appreciating the child, often say the word “Help” and explain the exact meaning. Why do we need to help? When and why we need to get help. How do we feel if we help others? We can discuss such things in our day to day life. If the child helps us appreciate them by mentioning the word- “Thanks for helping me complete this work.” I completed the work soon (or) any positives we want to convey because of your help. Simultaneously, if we help the child, it is good to share the same with them. If we help them with clean up or any of their work, talk about it, and we can say – as you are helping me, I am helping you too. I not here to say, “As I help, you need to help me back “. But to explain, helping is a great life tool that we need to give and take whenever required.
Sharing is a beautiful life skill which we need to have throughout our life. As with other skills, sharing gives us satisfaction if given/taken. It’s not only sharing the things; it’s all about sharing the joy, sharing our challenging moments. Sharing is one life skill that is very much hard for the child to follow at an early stage. We can’t expect them to share the things right away after hearing them from us or books. It takes a reasonable amount of time, experience, observation for the child to understand the full essence of sharing. Please never force the child to share things with others, their siblings, or anybody. I can understand the situation put us in embarrassment when we are with other families. But it is of no use to force the child to share. It never gives us a good result except for frustration to them. Gently as the child to share it, positively talk to them to share it. If the situation goes beyond, better take the child away. Like everyone I was there, I try to take control of the situation without any choice. Give them time but keep telling the positive thoughts of sharing. One day, they will surprise us.
Respect – one of the powerful, most wanted skills for every human being. I am not going to talk about giving respect to elders only. Because respect is one basic gesture that every single living and the non-living thing needs on this earth. We need to respect all humans irrespective of ages, caste, creed, religion, etc. Our own house is where we can learn any such wonderful gestures at first. We can start discussing giving respect with everyday activity. Listening and replying marks the important way to provide respect. At present, we are working on this topic very much. I have a toddler at home, and he is in the phase of giving back things to the respective person ( he gives my belonging to me, and in the same way, he tries to give the same to my preschooler too ). But she doesn’t want to accept it and directly says “No.” This is where I try to explain the importance of respect. Our children provide us the opportunity and create a situation to learn things from us. We can utilize it and provide valuable information to them. Getting back the respect is as important as giving it. We need to clearly explain the child to leave behind the place where they feel losing the respect.
Another big life skill which every person needs to understand. Children love to buy, and everything which crosses their mind plus they damage things at home without their knowledge. They won’t do it purposefully, but it happens. Many parents’ stress level shoots up when the kids damage or waste things at home irrespective of their financial position. We can discuss the financial part from preschool age and again from their day to day life. If they waste the food, talk about the shopping scenario and the billing we do to get the items. The cooking process and time we took to complete the same. If they throw things away, start to discuss “How it will feel, if we don’t have the toy tomorrow,” etc., anything which applies to our family.
Accepting is one hard feeling at times to go through. But we need to practice having a peaceful life and to forget any bad moments in life. At preschooler age, kids have so many choices on their own, and they demand things. We can take anyone example from their behavior and talk about the acceptance. Kids surprise us sometimes by accepting few things we never thought of, but it gives us blues. At present, we are working on cloth choices. My daughter gets stressed out if she gets little dirt or wet in her clothes. We have read a book and started to accept the fact, but we are still facing challenges at times. Hopefully, she starts to accept the fact as early as possible.
I never tag the children as “Good girl/boy” as a parent. Instead, I tag the habit and differentiate them as good and bad habits. There are so many good manners to follow, and we can’t list one by one to children at this age. But we can explain the consequences of good and bad manners to understand the difference when the situation arises in their lives. We can talk as if any of their habits help others. We call it “good manners.” For example, following the routine work at home marks good manners- Putting up the used plate in the sink, picking up the clothes, and putting it up in the laundry helps the parents. Being gentle and Exchanging “Thank you,” “Please,” saying “Sorry” is good manners, and many more are in the list.
Being responsible is more important for self and society. We can explain to the child about responsibility by taking care of their books, toys (cleaning and keeping them at their respective place- so it won’t get lost). Avoid throwing up trash in public to avoid pollution, and many such everyday routines are available to talk about.
At school age, kids try to hide anything from us. As a parent, we can handle it gently and take it as an opportunity to talk about the honesty. We can assure them; our parents are always for them, and they need to tell the truth without hiding.
Empathy is related to our feelings, where we need to be in others’ shoes and understand their feelings. This is one natural feeling kids have in them. As a parent, we can reassure and name the emotion, so we get to develop it as a human. Empathy is in someone’s situation/position and gives value to their feeling. Whenever a child talks about a challenging incident that happens to their friend or anyone instead of avoiding the situation, name it and talk about it. Let the children share their feelings, which helps them to develop more empathy. Being kind is a great way of empathy.
The world is connected, and we are all thankful to one another in many ways. Every day passes by utilizing someone’s work, and we are grateful for many things in this world. We are grateful to all community workers, private employees, pets, nature, and so many items, especially family members. We can explain them to children as “ Farmers give us food and we need be thankful to them.” Doctors help us to get rid of any sickness, and we need to be thankful. In the same way, we can explain all professions and provide the importance of being thankful
Children model themselves by looking at their surroundings, mainly their parents, teachers, and friends who filled their life most of the time. If we follow specific essential life hacks correctly, we can easily pass them on to our children. By understanding various life lessons, children can face the world with full confidence and positivity.